A Message from Your Counselor: What is Bullying?

The beginning of every school year brings questions and concerns about our child’s well-being – Will she make friends? Will other kids be mean to him? What if she’s bullied? Christian Academy does not tolerate bullying, and we strive to promote a culture of compassion and respect. However, we have found that there is often confusion about what bullying is and is not.

What is bullying? Bullying is:
  • Physical, social or emotional harm. 
  • Intentional. 
  • Repetitive. 
  • An imbalance of power (size, numbers or popularity). 
Because elementary students are in the process of learning social skills and maturing, it can sometimes be difficult to assess whether a mean action or remark is bullying or if it is a case of immature social skills, an accident or a misunderstanding.

At Christian Academy School System we strive to teach students to “be peaceable and considerate and always be gentle toward everyone” (Titus 3:2b) and to develop empathy – an understanding of another’s viewpoint. Research shows that empathy-based training in elementary school reduces instances of bullying through high school!

This year, we will practice the following in order to develop a culture that promotes empathy:
  • Basing our self-worth on God’s love for each person. 
  • Accepting and celebrating our different talents, abilities and appearances. 
  • Demonstrating kindness and compassion toward everyone through words and deeds. 
  • Responding to mean words/actions in ways that stop (rather than escalate) the meanness. 
  • Understanding another’s point of view. 
  • Seeking advice from trusted adults about how to handle difficult situations. 
  • Conflict-resolution. 

The above skills will be practiced all year in your child’s classroom and throughout the school days. In addition, in September I will teach an empathy workshop to each grade level.

We value your support and your input in the goal to develop students with a heart for God who grow as Jesus did in wisdom, stature and in favor with God and men.